obsessed over ex hubby

[karen2010]

hi there ,

Just wanted to ask opinions of other members about a problem i have .

My husband divorced me 3 years ago as he was not happy in our marriage ,i was gutted and thought that I had accepted it ,until a few months ago,Hes now living with a much younger woman whos really really attractive ,blonde ,slim and gorgous ,a lot different then me :(

And the worst thing is now she is pregnant with his baby ,We were all at a family wedding recently and i thought I was going to throw up watching him with his hands on her belly .Basically I am totally jealous and it really drives me mad as im constantly imagining the two of them together .We have two kids of our own and they get on really well with her,and this I know sounds a little immature ,but i hate it .any suggestions how to rid myself of these feelings ?

[ThunderStorm™]

hi there ,

Just wanted to ask opinions of other members about a problem i have .

My husband divorced me 3 years ago as he was not happy in our marriage ,i was gutted and thought that I had accepted it ,until a few months ago,Hes now living with a much younger woman whos really really attractive ,blonde ,slim and gorgous ,a lot different then me :(

And the worst thing is now she is pregnant with his baby ,We were all at a family wedding recently and i thought I was going to throw up watching him with his hands on her belly .Basically I am totally jealous and it really drives me mad as im constantly imagining the two of them together .We have two kids of our own and they get on really well with her,and this I know sounds a little immature ,but i hate it .any suggestions how to rid myself of these feelings ?

You are feeling that because you seem to still be fantasizing or entertaining the idea that you can get him back, he has moved on, something that might not even be about you but a character flaw he has. I suggest you try closing the book that you yourself like to read every now and then.

[Butcherman]

hi there ,

Just wanted to ask opinions of other members about a problem i have .

My husband divorced me 3 years ago as he was not happy in our marriage ,i was gutted and thought that I had accepted it ,until a few months ago,Hes now living with a much younger woman whos really really attractive ,blonde ,slim and gorgous ,a lot different then me :(

And the worst thing is now she is pregnant with his baby ,We were all at a family wedding recently and i thought I was going to throw up watching him with his hands on her belly .Basically I am totally jealous and it really drives me mad as im constantly imagining the two of them together .We have two kids of our own and they get on really well with her,and this I know sounds a little immature ,but i hate it .any suggestions how to rid myself of these feelings ?

Karen, Some things just cannot be simply erased from your memory.It's going to take time to get over your jealousy and as time passes you will forget about your ex more and more and eventually you'll move on. As time passes you're going to get over this and stop feeling this way. Dwelling on it only makes it worse. I'm sorry but thats the way it is. You could be doing things to keep your mind occupied so these feelings you are having don't have so much control over you. Volunteering in your community is a good way to keep busy as well as meet new people and it makes you feel good about yourself. Chatting online will help a lot if thats your thing. Sure, you will meet a lot of creeps but you may just meet a really nice guy too. A guy who will make you forget about your ex and his mistake. Good luck to you whatever happens...regards, John

[karen2010]

thanks john and thunderstorm for your kind words and advice,perhaps you are right John I need to keep myself more occupied and do some of things I used to enjoy doing :)

[dan17]

You are feeling that because you seem to still be fantasizing or entertaining the idea that you can get him back, he has moved on, something that might not even be about you but a character flaw he has. I suggest you try closing the book that you yourself like to read every now and then.

karen, thunderstorm is right it is normal to feel if your still hold on to him, take this as a challenge to forget him since you seen them happy already so move on, you don't have to feel insecure to her partner but to make sure once you engage to another relationship don't let him to leave you again do anything to make your relationship work and happy:rolleyes:

[karen2010]

thanks dan,i Guess my confidence is just crushed lately ,seeing that he is now with a younger and more beautiful girl,Perhaps I should join the gym,get my ass in shape :)